MOMENTS IN FATHERHOOD  

WITH ASH KEILAH

 

This Father’s Day, we chat to the fun-loving and refreshingly down-to-earth, Ash Keillah about his journey into the chaotic and entirely beautiful world of fatherhood.

 

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How would you describe fatherhood thus far?

Fatherhood, wow, you have all day? Haha. It's been an absolute roller coaster, from tears of joy to tears of despair. As cliché as it sounds, I wouldn't change a thing.

 

How has your perspective on life changed since becoming a dad?

My perspective has changed in so many ways. Realising that it's not all about me anymore was a big one and learning how to truly put someone else first because I have no choice has trickled over into the rest of my relationships – for the better. Also, learning that one tough moment doesn't have to dictate the rest of the day. By letting go and flowing with everything that can and will happen has allowed our whole family to embrace the moment more and more.

Can you share.....

 

A funny moment...

Our first attempt at a dinner date post baby was pretty funny. We had my wife’s mum staying at our place, we were all dressed up and super excited with a reservation at a beautiful restaurant at 7:30. About 15 minutes into the date and half a glass of wine deep, we were all but passing out at the table while requesting photos of our son, Jaiya, from Stacey’s mum. I think we realised then that things would never be the same again.

 

A cherished moment...

 I have too many cherished memories to list over this last year, but Stacey and I sitting on the floor playing with Jaiya, then, all of a sudden, he stands up and for the first time starts a wobbly rendition of me leaving a pub in my younger days. Stumbling over to Stacey, laughing and super impressed with himself, then proceeds to give Stacey a big ol’ hug. We were both in shock and started bawling – we are lucky we didn't scare him from walking ever again!

 

An unexpected moment...

 I knew I was going to love the little guy, but I really didn't expect it to be this much; and it's only getting stronger. I fear I may be one of those parents that won't want to do a single thing apart from their child. A bit smothery even. I hope he’s ready for it haha.

What is the best advice you received prior to becoming a father?

 Go with the flow and do your best to find humour anywhere you can, like being covered in poop for example.

 

What’s one piece of advice you’d give to soon-to-be fathers?

 You need to be strong in the tough times. Everyone can do it when things are going smoothly, but there will be days when neither of you have slept. When you think the cycle will never end, you can't figure out what's going on with your baby and it feels like life is ruined, that's the most important time for you to step up and be the rock for your family.

 

Amidst the chaos of it all, how do you unwind or find some ‘me’ time?

 I put a big priority on health and fitness, so my unwind time is usually surfing, going for a jog or doing Jiu Jitsu with some buddies. Anything active really clears my head and gives me that much needed release of endorphins after a few sleepless nights.

 

How will you be celebrating Father’s Day this year?

This year, my wifey has said she had a surprise planned. I'm partial to a little pampering (hint, hint Stacey) haha, but probably kick-off with a coffee and a family walk along the beach. Then hopefully a nice big lunch with a sneaky wine. Maybe I’ll be off nappy duties that day as well to make it real special.

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